Latoya Leblanc
Friday, October 17, 2014
Ladies! Ladies! Ladies! Because it hurts my heart to hear the same bull***t over and over again from females! He cheated on me, he abuses me, hit me, ill treats me, never makes me feel special, never made me smile, always asking for things and favors to be done. The list goes on but YET YOU FEMALES CLAIM HE LOVES YOU !!!
Ummmm no he doesn't! If a man genuinely loves you he will be there for you, he will open up to you and tell you how you make him feel.
He will treat you with respect, love, make you feel special, treat you to a dinner, a movie, vacation, presents, a poem, a nice text, an unexpected phone call, a candlelight room, dinner at home. Not everyone is fortunate to give or have money but it does not take a lot to let someone know you truly care or that they are special to you and have no reason to feel insecure or worried.
We have all made mistakes, been lied to, got into relationships for the wrong reasons but the one thing I do know, is that when you love someone, it eats you away inside to lie to them, you can never spread your legs or spread someone's legs, or even get into that position. It hurts to think about hurting that person. If a man loves you he discusses the future with you involved, he make plans for the next step, he discusses having a family, moving in together, building your dream home or shack even.
If a man to lies to you, have other relations with women of some sort that is not appropriate and keeps telling you he is sorry or know how to pull right back to the comfort zone every time he screw up - he will keep doing so and come with a different Oscar winning story everytime because he knows you will fall for it. I am a living testimony to that bulls**t until I walked away and all the walls came falling which eventually open my eyes to who my partner was.
Most of the time when a man does certain things to you or behind your back he will never forgive you if you did the same, so why should you ? It's always easier for men to turn their back than women; we are always emotionally involved but know your self worth, have self respect to know what would damage your image and the true element of who you really are as a person. Know what you want out of life. If you are just a girlfriend and its going nowhere with your partner, with all of this why settle? If we don't know what awaits us on this earth, we as women should set our standards and grounds.
If a man can't take it to the next level with you within three years (yes give a time line) he wont ever make up his mind. Some men settle because we are their baby mamas because we stuck by them for numerous years, because we take care of them, because we put up with the bulls**t .
Never settle for less aim for your dreams, for out there is someone for everyone who will genuinely love you for you and respect you. Often times we choose the wrong fruit to plant and pick from the wrong tree. Love someone that will love you in return, listen to you, communicate with you, ask you how you day was, help to make life easier for the two of you. A relationship is not 2,3,4 or more! That's a family! A relationship is two people and not one so why should you feel alone?
So if you are feeling alone then walk away it's not worth your time and never allow a man to belittle or verbally abuse you. Another living testimony I have been through and I realize if I am being nice to someone why go through this? Everyone has an agenda whether it's bad or good.
Take a break ladies. You would be surprised what you hear and see after you walk away. Like it was someone else you thought he was all along. Always trust the sixth sense all women have been blessed with - our instincts.
Note: Latoya Leblanc is an Editorial Contributor with MNI Alive Media
